Today I was to meet with my therapist to discuss how I'm getting along. My son however, really wanted to speak to her too, so I let him go in first thinking he would take 30 mins then I would take 30 mins. I drug my daughter along too, despite her fervent notions that she would NEVER talk to a therapist. I didn't care about that tonight, as I was sure once she saw that her brother was not harmed for life for wanting to talk, she would eventually go in on her own.
He is about to head out on his own soon, and this chaos is not helping him mentally prepare for his new life. I won't ask what he talks about because he wants to keep it private, but my Therapist did say he had more pain then anger. He is hurting. He loves his parents very much, and to see us going after each other, has got to be hurting him deeply. He has been a support to me through this all, having seen both parents fall on their noses, but watched as I have tried to get the help to make the changes needed to be a better wife and mother. For that I am grateful. If nothing else comes out of this, I hope I have set an example that we don't have to go through life alone when we are crying out in pain. Good help is out there.
He talked for a full hour with her and wanted to make another appointment to come in again. Needless to say, I didn't get my time and had to to reschedule. It was okay. My son needed to to talk to someone that wasn't emotionally involved with it all and I need him to open up to someone that is trained to help guide him. the self-destructive cycle has to stop.
My youngest is watching and already has gotten positive feedback from him. The most important thing is that they have to know they can talk freely and alone. I know they are afraid of hurting me and their dad more, but if they can get it out and worked through in a healthy manner, then please God, let them say what they need to say.
I love them too much to let them become "just like me" or their dad.
He is about to head out on his own soon, and this chaos is not helping him mentally prepare for his new life. I won't ask what he talks about because he wants to keep it private, but my Therapist did say he had more pain then anger. He is hurting. He loves his parents very much, and to see us going after each other, has got to be hurting him deeply. He has been a support to me through this all, having seen both parents fall on their noses, but watched as I have tried to get the help to make the changes needed to be a better wife and mother. For that I am grateful. If nothing else comes out of this, I hope I have set an example that we don't have to go through life alone when we are crying out in pain. Good help is out there.
He talked for a full hour with her and wanted to make another appointment to come in again. Needless to say, I didn't get my time and had to to reschedule. It was okay. My son needed to to talk to someone that wasn't emotionally involved with it all and I need him to open up to someone that is trained to help guide him. the self-destructive cycle has to stop.
My youngest is watching and already has gotten positive feedback from him. The most important thing is that they have to know they can talk freely and alone. I know they are afraid of hurting me and their dad more, but if they can get it out and worked through in a healthy manner, then please God, let them say what they need to say.
I love them too much to let them become "just like me" or their dad.
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